Facebook Friend or Foe?
August 15, 2010 by Glyna Humm
Filed under Social Networking Tips
How many friends do you have on FB? How many groups, pages, events, and causes do you “LIKE”? Do you know every one of these people personally, or do you on occasion, accept someone blindly just because they asked? Everyday I get requests from people, and even animals that I don’t know. Usually I go ahead and accept them after I have looked at their information and try to make sure they are “above board”.
Well, let me tell you, it can come back to bite you quickly with all the junk that starts coming your way day, after day, after day. You now have to take your precious time weeding through all of the spammers with their “can’t miss’ opportunities, events and products you just have to get your hands on.
At first, I tried to be “politically correct” and send these spammers a note and ask them to kindly take me off their lists. But guess what – no one answered! I know you are probably surprised! Haha So, I decided to take this problem into my own hands and investigate Facebook to find another solution.
Great news! I found out how get rid of these people and groups and want to share it with you in this video.
I hope you found this helpful and I would love to know if you tried it for yourself, so please leave me your comments. Please feel free to share this with all your social medial friends!
Wishing You Success,
I agree about Val Wilcox. Great information. Keeping your facebook organized is essential. Thanks for the information on groups…
Good Stuff
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 5:02 pm
You are welcome Nick! Thanks
Glyna – thank you so much for your facebook “friend or foe” tips – I have grown weary deleting all the messages received from spammers – will start “removing from group” immediately !
Be Blessed – Bob White
Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 5:02 pm
Awesome Bob! Maybe if we all start doing it they will stop spamming. – Ahh probably not – but we can try:)
So that’s how you blocked me. I need to check out the Events also. I get hundreds of invites to these and most are requiring travel to some other city. Beats me why somebody would think I would leave my couch to visit some MLM opportunity. Just a small rant my lady. later gator.
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 5:01 pm
No – I totally agree Nelson! AND – you know I would never block you:) Thanks for your comment my friend!
Glyna,
I can always count on you to share some very good info that I can use! I’ve had this happen too often lately & have had to remove some because of it.
I’m so glad you really didn’t “get rid of me!” LOL
Have a great one Val 🙂
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 5:00 pm
I ended up not having to get rid of you Val. I just pretended – but thanks for volunteering! haha
Thanks for the tip Glyna. I’m still trying to get comfortable with all the bells and whistles at FaceBook. Unfortunately, that sometimes means getting a bunch of pitching from a few people that just don’t get it. Well, now I can pitch them…. right out of my inbox!! Thanks!
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:59 pm
Haha – yes exactly Richard! I am going to be pitching right with you:)
Glyna – great post! I actually had to remove some groups the other day for the same reason – they were just driving me nuts with info that wasn’t relevant to me. I am glad you didn’t rid yourself of the SGPP page! haha Thanks for another valuable video post and I always love to see you in my Inbox!
Have a great day my friend!
Summer
Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:59 pm
Summer I would never get rid of you! haha Plus you always bring value to everything you do! I love SGPP! Thanks
Great way to put out there it is ok to say no. If we say yes to everything we are just taking our precious time. Thanks,
Emmie
Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:58 pm
That is a hard one (saying no) sometimes isn’t it Emmie? Thanks for your comment.
Fabulous Glyna! Often there are little tips make a huge impact in our lives and if you continue to supply them to us we’ll keep coming back for more. Before you know it, you’ll be our next tip guru! Hmmmm….we’ll need to come up with a good title for you. All these great videos ought to be put on one page of Glyna’s tipping jar with a donation button if they were helpful to people. Okay so that is the best I can do so late at night but it’s a start .See what other creative ideas you can come up with!
Abundant Blessings,
Kellie
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:57 pm
Haha Kellie – I love it! You are always full of such great ideas even late at night:) Thank you for stopping by!
I love all the ideas you provide on your site. You can also just block the person’s comments without removing them as a friend (then they get your stuff but you don’t get there’s) – you might add that as another training at some point.
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:54 pm
That is an awesome point Mark and something I didn’t cover. Thanks for the great topic for another video:)
Hey Glyna, Great info and tips. I actually was just trying to figure out where to even find the groups I’m a part of and now I know LOL! Was able to remove myself from a few. Found your post helpful and I’m sure many others will too! Thanks for sharing.
~Kara
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:54 pm
Great – glad to help Kara! Thanks!
Hi Glyna,
Thanks for the tips. I really LOVE watching tutorial videos. Since I am a visual person, it works out really well for me. Keep ’em coming.
~ Tim
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:51 pm
Hi TIm – I am the same way. Everything seems to sink in a little more if you can “see it” Thanks for the comment!
Glyna ,
I know what you mean about all the invites, spam , and auto message after message from the Facebook Spam Bots or Spammers 🙂 Good job on the video, i know i have some cleaning up to do on mine to free my box from the people i truly want to connect with. Enjoy your Weekend!
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:51 pm
Hi Chris
The FB and Twitter spammers really take the fun out of getting your messages. It gets to be tedious to weed through all of the junk. Thanks!
Glyna…great advice. I didn’t know you could do this and I very much appreciate knowing it. I have a whole host of friend requests that I just haven’t gotten to. It gives me a bit of pause before accepting them. Thanks a ton!
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:49 pm
Yes – I know what you mean Bruce. I know a lot of people that don’t accept friends unless there is a message attached to it. I’m not sure I am going to go that far but I might check them out a little more.
Hey Glyna
Thanks for this information, it’s hard to keep up with everything on Facebook and this will certainly come in useful.
Sue
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 21st, 2010 at 4:48 pm
You are welcome Sue! I am glad you found it to be helpful
Glyna,
Little tips matter like building blocks for a house! Thanks so much. I usually block the people and remove myself from the groups. You can click report/block on the person’s profile and just select block without reporting them. 😉
God Bless,
Curt B aka CBiz
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at 2:40 pm
Aahh – great tip Curt – Thanks
Hi Glyna,
Although I was already familiar with how to “rid” yourself of spammers you’d friended, I appreciate that you showed how to do this step-by-step on your video. This is for sure one of the topics that I hear most from my true friends about…that they’ve befriended someone & not sure how to unfriend them…lol! I appreciate you sharing 🙂
Christine
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 27th, 2010 at 6:26 pm
Hi Christine – I am glad I could help! Thanks
Hi Glyna, thanks for that valuable input. Do you know whether the person knows you have removed them or not? Sometimes it would be politically more beneficial for them not to know but rather they go than I continue to be “bugged”! It is most annoying and crazy that people don’t understand that real business is built via real relationships.
keep up the great content.
regards,
Clare
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Glyna Humm Reply:
August 27th, 2010 at 6:25 pm
Hi Clare – The other person is not notified but you would be taken off their friend list too. – So most likely they wouldn’t even notice:)
Glyna,
Thanks for the video. It’s funny that I have been on Facebook for a while now and never knew those buttons to remove were right there. I used to go to my “edit friends” button.
I think anyone on Facebook has experienced the spammers. I get the “hit and run” instant messagers that will IM me and throw out a quick link that I “need” to check out. I also get those that just say “hi” on IM but never respond back when you answer them in hopes you’ll go to their profile. Silly spammers!
Great to connect and I look forward to more of your posts!
In Success,
Howie Perks
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Glyna Humm Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 8:29 pm
Haha – silly spammers indeed! You made me smile Howie – thank you!
Hi Glyna,
Great post and video. There are a few people on my list I will delete. I have done this in the past and it felt good. It is all about choices. Some of the information I receive I am grateful and yes some is not.
Have a great week!
Faith
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Glyna Humm Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
Yes – having the choice to not deal with these people any more can be quite liberating! Thanks Faith
Hi Glyna
Great information. I got two of these types of messages last week on FB that were clearly the UNwanted kind! I think the auto adders and frenzy to increase quantity instead of quality has made for the necessity of this caution!
Cheers
Laura Morris
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Glyna Humm Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 8:15 pm
I think you are right Laura. Quantity rarely trumps quality! Great point and thank you for your comment.
Glyna,
Thanks so much for sharing! It’s like weeding a garden, isn’t it? But hey, if someone is really annoying, then so be it.
Hopefully you and Val are friends again!
Thanks,
~ Pat and Lorna
http://TheCoolestCouple.com
Glyna Humm Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 8:06 pm
Hi Coolest Couple – Thanks for stopping by! haha – Yes Val and I are still BFF’s:)
Glyna, Great tips! These spammers are constantly bugging me! I appreciate you sharing this information. Now I can go into my Facebook account and get rid of these spammers once and for all. Thanks again! ~Joseph McDevitt
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Glyna Humm Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 8:05 pm
I know – they are so annoying aren’t they Joseph. I am glad I could help! Thank you for the nice comment
Hey Glyna -thank you for taking the time to do this step-by-step on your video.
I think it’s a shame that so many people know so little about relationship building and the real benefits and power of Social Networking that the only way they understand how to use it is to SPAM!!!!
I look forward to more of your quick FB tips
Glyna Humm Reply:
September 12th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
I know – what a waste of time – especially ours:) Thanks
Hi Glyna!
Oh My Goodness, I have had to spend hours going through and deleting groups!! I joined far too many and literally got an ibox full of rubbish every day and ended up missing important message from friends & family.
The one thing that still clogs things up a bit is that I get so many event invites, which is fine, I’m sure a lot of them have value but I really don’t like how someone can invite you to an event and then inbox me about it… I think it’s enough that I see their event in my invites section! Can’t find a way to stop that unfortunately but definitely removing the groups helped tons!
Wishing you a fabulous weekend.
Emma 🙂
Glyna Humm Reply:
September 18th, 2010 at 9:36 am
Hmmm – I will have to check that out Emma. Maybe I can figure out a way to get that stopped too. Thanks Emma
Glynna,
Great tips for getting rid of the bloat in Facebook. And your video makes it fast and easy to remove. Thanks.
One Love,
Debbie
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 4th, 2010 at 8:17 am
I love that Debbie! Thanks!
Great Facebook maintenance advise. And I am going back to your video about getting friends back on your newsfeed. So many details, so little time. Thanks for the tips!
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 4th, 2010 at 7:49 am
Haha – yes isn’t that true Gary? There is not enough time in the day! I keep getting up earlier and earlier – pretty soon I will be staying up all night:) Thanks
Glynna,
What a helpful post! As for the events issue, it might pay to remove the person who is sending the event notices, by clicking on their name in the invitation and then following your suggestions above…. 🙂
Anything that helps us regain some of our time is always a great tip!
Thanks so much for sharing this great video….
Robin
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 4th, 2010 at 7:46 am
That is true Robin! We might as well get rid of the culprit who is sending them in the first place! Great point! Thanks
Thanks so much for the tip Glyna. I need to clean up my Facebook friends and did not know how to do it.
On a side note, your page seems to load very slowly. Of course I may have just caught your server napping but there is a plugin to speed up your site that you may want to look at W3 Total Cache. I use it for my site and it works great.
Michael
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 4th, 2010 at 7:41 am
Hi Michael – I will check my page out! I think it is starting to get overloaded. Thanks for the plugin tip!
Thanks for taking the time to investigate on this issue and sharing with us,i have never personally experienced spamming yet but if somehow they start doing their dirty work on my profile, i will know how to clean them thanks to you.
To your unlimited success,
~Kebabope Morapedi
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 4th, 2010 at 7:37 am
Glad to help Kebabope! Thanks for your comment!
Hey Glyna
This is a great video with two awesome tips that every facebook user should know about! I use to have a lot of spammers so I turned off my wall so people couldn’t post to it, but I missed my friends dropping by so now I just remove people who have no etiquette 🙂
cheers
Nat
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 11th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
Aahh – good move Nat! Thanks
Glyna,
Great tip! Facebook can be confusing and I have had to do the same, but, this tip is SO much easier! Dah! LOL! I recently got hacked into so you really have to be care ful. Thanks for the info I appreciate it!
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Glyna Humm Reply:
October 11th, 2010 at 7:20 pm
Yes – you have to be so careful with all of this stuff – don’t you Lesly. It is definitely not fun to deal with hackers! I’ve been there – I feel for you:)
Glyna
Gone are all those annoying groups and spammers. Thanks for this tip, very useful thanks.
Belinda
Glyna Humm Reply:
November 29th, 2010 at 10:41 am
Yes! You are welcome Belinda! Thanks for coming by
This was a pretty cool post. I never viewed it in your version. I will keep these points in mind. Look forward to more key points to social media.
Ruth
Glyna Humm Reply:
November 29th, 2010 at 10:35 am
Thanks Ruth!
Hi Glyna,
Thank you for sharing your video tips. I use Facebook and I hate when I encountered some annoying spammers. Thanks for the your tips. It will help me a lot. 🙂
Glyna Humm Reply:
December 15th, 2010 at 9:32 am
You are so welcome Jorge! Thank you for stopping by!
Hi Glyna,
The video is well done and so simple to follow.
Normally I just ignore it but now I have a way to take them off my friend list.
Thank you!
Eiji
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Glyna Humm Reply:
February 4th, 2011 at 6:23 pm
Glad you found this helpful Eiji! Thank you for stopping by!
Hey there my friend; thanks for sharing this my friend. I agree with you that FB can become a place that can become a pitch fest by people in our area of interest. Though I truly very being up to date with what’s going on, there is definitely a time to put those updates on the back burner to make room for more important updates that provide value.
Thanks again for sharing Glyna; make it a great day
Thank you for the information about how to get rid of spamers on facebook.
I to get allot of spam in my inbox because of this I may be missing some important messages because I mainly delete them all. I look forward to reading more great contaent.
Kerri Foster
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Glyna,
That was such valuable information. I have not known what to do when I get regular emails from someone who is spamming me. Now I know. I am really excited. Thank you so much for doing this research.
Erica
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Glyna Humm Reply:
March 31st, 2011 at 5:27 pm
Now you can be spam free. Glad to help Dr. Erica and thank you!
Hi Glyna, thanks for showing the easy way! It’s not practical to write to everyone, and most won’t read it anyway:-) Having said that, I made really good friends with a lady years ago, who had originally sent me something I considered to be s’pam. I wrote a nice message to her, and she honestly didn’t realize she would offend many people. Her mentor had advised her to send out letters to every email address she could find.
Have a great weekend! Julieanne
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Glyna Humm Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 4:27 pm
That is interesting Julieanne! Yes – I am with you in thinking that a lot of people don’t even realize they are offending others. Thanks for the comment!
Hey Gyna,
Thanks for the posting. So many times (almost every day) I get spam. In fact, I just removed some from my fan page.
I almost want or need to write a book called proper social media edict. 😀 hehe
I know for a lot of people, facebook can be a confusing place to navigate, so I wanted to say thanks for this quick video that I believe will help others to stop the spammers in their tracks.
-Dereck
Good tip Glyna. I definitely need to do some clean up because the spammers have really rendered by facebook inbox useless because it takes too much time to weed through the spam for the “real” messages. It’s just unfortunate that it’s all or nothing with groups – you’re either a part of it or not, you can’t really pick and choose what you get and what you don’t. But then again, I guess let that be a lesson to group admins….in many cases, less is more. To me, more than one message a week (and even once a week gets to be a little much), is just overkill. “With all the noise, they won’t hear your lyrics”
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Hi Glyna! This is problem that a lot of people seem to have… I also had to remove some groups the other day for the same reason – they were just driving me nuts ! Also trying to be nice sometimes is just a vaste of time… Thanks for a valuable video post.
Have a great day !
Katri
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Glyna, many thanks for the video, and your instructions. There is nothing more annoying than getting unwanted emails from groups etc in Facebook. I switch the notification off except if I have a very serious interest in a particular group.I will be back to this blog. All the best Rosemary
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I can’t tell you how many times I have had to use the remove button, thank goodness for it! 🙂 Thanks for the tips, I will be back!
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Facebook is continually changing, but this is still great advice, 10 months later. With all that FB does to curb spam, I am surprised and annoyed at the way the new groups work… I get so many posts every day from people who have posted to the wall of the groups I am in.
I liked it so much better before, when I got one post a day or a couple of times a week, from the admin of the group. But your solution is still the best… just leave the group. I have cut ‘way down on my groups for that reason.
Willena Flewelling