Network Marketers – Are You Throwing Up On Your Prospects?

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Ok – sorry for the “visual”, but this really is an important question when you realize what I am talking about.  When you are in an appointment with a prospective customer, do you take time to listen to THEM or are you busy overwhelming them with YOU and your “can’t miss” opportunity and product?  You can literally wreck an appointment in a very short time by approaching it the wrong way.

In this video, I share a short, easy process to get you started in the right direction whether you are in person or on the phone.


I hope you found this post helpful. If you did, please feel free to share it with all of your social networking friends.  I would also love to hear your tips and strategies for dealing with appointments, so please leave a comment below.

To Your Success,


  1. Hello my friend Glyna – I look forward to see your name in my Inbox – means that you have another blogpost AND a video ;D

    Here’s my tip for you Glyna – write those tips on a 3 X 5 card – take it with you whenever your are going to be out and about – review them to “frame” your mindset before walking into an interactive environment or a specific appointment.

    Be Blessed !

  2. Another awesome, valuable post Glyna! This is so important in our industry too! I loved how you stressed “earning the right” – people think they can just throw up their info all over you, before you “give them permission”.

    Bob – great idea about writing the framework on index cards to prepare yourself before a call or an appt – I love that and will be using that strategy. It is so easy to forget, because we DO get excited about what we are doing. We just have to remember that not everyone feels the way we do!

  3. Glyna,
    Love your videos. You’re always so comfortable. 🙂

    This three step process is great. People do want to have someone listen and this will open the channels to more conversations and possible business partnering.

    Have an awesome day!
    Val 😉

  4. The best words of GR8 advice Glyna! I always remember Mary Kay said once:
    “Everybody has a sign hanging around their neck that says…MAKE ME FEEL IMPORTANT!” Glyna Humm you have said it perfectly!
    Keep the great stuff going on!

  5. Hi Glyna,
    Thanks, your tips are so easy to implement and they go so far in building a relationship. And, they put you in a better position to know how to serve your prospects – it’s all about them. Great video, Glyna. Thanks 🙂

  6. Hey Glyna,

    The “verbally vomiting syndrome” is very common in new network marketers.

    I know I suffered from it when I first got into the business. It’s hard not to run out and start explaining your business to everyone because of the excitement of new possibilities.

    You made some great points in your video about making it about them. The person who asks the questions is in full control of the conversation. It’s amazing how it works. You can have a full 20 minute conversation with a person asking questions about them, never really saying a word otherwise and when you walk away they are like “wow, what a cool person!”

    It’s important for a new person’s success to learn how to listen and ask questions right from the beginning before they run right though their warm market.

    Great to connect and I look forward to networking!

    In Success,
    Howie Perks

  7. Enjoyed the video.
    That is a good point to be reminded of from time to time for all of us. We can get so passionate about our products or opportunity that we tend to forget about the person we are talking to.

    Great job.
    Dwayne Yoder

  8. Two Ears and One Mouth. That should tell us something. “Appreciation Marketing” by Tommy Wyatt and Curtis Lewsey give good back up credence for your excellent post. Great content we all need to take to heart.

  9. Hi Glyna,
    I do know from experience, (as a person that wears there heart on their sleeve) that this can be detrimental. Even when it is out of sheer excitement, it can turn into puke!! I have found that when it is about them… it is easy to not feel the need to talk to fill space.

    I believe that the reason the puking occurs is because the person is not comfortable with silence. Somehow they don’t trust themselves.

    Great 3 steps to assist someone in switching the focus on to the important thing!
    Best, Lisa

  10. Glyna,

    Wow I can’t tell you how many people could use the tips from your video.
    You really hit the mark pointing out how much people like to talk about themselves.

    If only more people understood the importance of finding out about where the person’s goals and dreams are at before they introduced their latest and greatest opportunity. It’s hard to believe I know, but not everyone is an aspiring entrepreneur in the making!

    The first book I always recommend my team reads is ‘How To Win Friends and Influence People’. It teaches people the most basic, yet powerful strategy they can use in any business and in life.

    Thanks for the incredible value you bring to our industry.


  11. Glyna,
    Finally, someone realizes that I am the most important person in the world. I am so fascinating and I LOVE to talk about myself! Believe it or not…this is true for everyone as you said.

    God gaves us 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. Thanks for giving us the antidote for this horrible virus.

  12. Hi Glyna,

    This makes me think of the quote made by Theodore Roosevelt,’Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care’.

    Thanks for reminding us that it’s all about THEM. 🙂


  13. “Throwing up” on me is one thing I can’t stand, I run a mile:-)

    I love the “listening” and relationship building style you use Glyna, it’s my favorite also. People always respond better if you listen and let them talk about their problem.

  14. You nailed it, Glyna! Now let’s inspire other fellow NMs to do the same to elevate this business. It is really NOT about your product ingredients or how your company is the first to launch xyz. Prospects want to know what you can do for THEM.

    Keep up the good stuff!

    Janette Stoll

  15. Hey Glyna,

    This are amazing tips. I have implemented them in my life and business and it has been fantastic. It totally works. It is all about them. Not you!

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,

  16. Great post Glyna. I loved your video and your steps. Some times I forget to do that. I find will get excited about the business or whatever I am sharing and find myself like you were saying (Throwing up on them). I have found I love asking people question and learning about them. We have so much to share and learn from each other. Thank you for the great reminder and advice.

  17. Hi Glyna,
    Great advice in this post/video. I must admit I have been guilty of this in the past. I now know there is nothing more boring than listening to the latest, fantastic biz opp. People want to be heard and know what is it in for them.
    The person should be our primary focus and how we can help them. How do we do this- ask them lots of questions about THEY want.
    Thanks for pointing out such a simple but often missed concept.

  18. I’ve been guilty of throwing up on my prospects in the early days of my career. 🙂 Asking questions and listening…the more we master these people skills, the more successful we will be!

  19. Hey Glyna,

    Very good informational video. No one wants to be inendated with information overload on a company and it’s opportunity, that’s a really big turnoff for me.

    I’m a partner in a new company called “Conscious Network Marketing” where we teach MLM’ers first and foremost about mindset and limiting beliefs they have about themselves and why their lives aren’t working as they dreamed of. Then we incorporate creating a brand so they can attract the like minded people into their business.

    Thank you for this video and hopefully has been seen by the right eyes!

  20. Hello Glyna…simple 3 steps. I like it. It is good to be reminded of the simple things. Most of us know that people like to talk about themselves but it is easy to forget whilst talking about oneself. If that simple thought could be at the forefront of most people’s minds it may just make some dramatic shifts in the amount of people becoming interested in you and what you have to offer.


  21. Eldridge – Hopefully it is a gentle reminder to those people that are not taking the time to really listen to what their customers are saying:) THanks!

  22. Haha – you crack me up Julieanne! That is a bad mental picture isn’t it? I guess that is the point – we don’t want that to ever happen:) Thanks

  23. I think you are right Lisa – silence is hard for some people. I had a manager that used to say – “the first one that speaks loses” That really stuck with me! Thanks

  24. I definitely need to read that book! I have heard so much about it and they obviously know what they are talking about since it has been so successful for them. Thanks Nelson!

  25. I know you are right Dwayne! It is so easy to get excited about our products and forget to tone it down a few notches when we are talking to customers. Thanks for the reminder!

  26. Haha – what a horrible syndrome to have Howie:) This technique can be used in anything we do that involves talking to others. I love making people feel special by actually listening to them and finding what they really need. Great points! Thanks

  27. Great video Glyna! I totally relate to being so excited and throwing up on someone. It’s tough NOT to do. Like you said, get them talking and keep asking questions. They will slowly feel comfortable and open up. Be there to HELP them not SELL them.

    I enjoyed your video. Well done 🙂


  28. Oh yeah, always my biggest problem. Throwing up on people. I just have such a hard time keeping my mouth shut because I get so darn excited.

    I have to admit though that I am working really hard on it and really am getting much better. I keep telling myself two years, one mouth, use proportionately.

    Thanks for the great advice!!

  29. Glyna
    I love this post with your video because I too believe it’s about them and not about me. I’ve been reading this book, “How to win friends and influence people.” This is the number one mistake people make, they don’t listen and make the person feel important or that they matter.
    Thanks for your post!
    I know you are very successful with your business and connecting with people!
    Debby Beachy db

  30. Thanks for the great post Glyna,

    It’s funny how often people are excited about their product or company and “vomit” all over everyone. It’s natural when you are excited about what you have to offer but it is so important to connect with others, find out about them and really work to solve a problem that they are having.

    Focusing on being “interested” instead of “interesting” is not better for talking with prospects, it actually takes a lot less energy. “Vomiting” is exhausting and not a great experience for either side!

  31. Glyna –
    As always, you are so right on with this. People too often forget that sales and marketing are all about service, not just about making more money for ourselves. It’s also about relationship building, and the best way to build a relationship is to put the spotlight on the other individual. You are absolutely right that people love to talk about themselves. The problem is, those people often end up being US, when it should be the other person. When we take time to show genuine interest in other people and find out about them, they will be more interested in finding out about us and what we have to offer in return.

  32. Hi Glyna,

    Yes, some people do get a little over zealous…especially people who are new to MLM or Network Marketing. I think a lot of people have been in the same boat at one time or another.

    ~ Tim

  33. Glyna:

    You are just absolutely adorable on camera, and so easy with it.

    Your subject has been a “soapbox” for me for years. I always appreciate someone highlighting this tendency.

    The moment someone finds out you are a network marketer you start hearing “you HAVE to look at my opportunity, blah, blah, blah”. What makes anyone think I WANT to look at any other opportunity. Just because I’m in the field doesn’t mean I’m looking for the “next big thing”.

    I love the 3 steps you outlined. They are really great. Now, once I’ve earned the right to talk to someone about my opportunity I turn it around a bit and make them work for the information, just a little.

    I have a “1 minute presentation” that literally is just 1 minute long. It gives them enough information to raise curiosity if they are in the market for what I have. Then I wait to see if they move on to a new subject or ask a question about what I have just said.

    If they move to a new subject, they are not a qualified prospect AT THIS TIME. If they ask a question I now have their tacit permission to give them more information.

    Thanks again for a great post. Sorry to get so long winded.

    Live with passion and purpose,

  34. You have given a beautiful application of how “attraction marketing” is not just something that happens online. With all of the online hoopla, network marketers seem to have mistakenly assumed that anything offline is automatically about, well, regurgitating upon or alienating people. And true enough, many have done that; many are still doing that. But attracting people (as opposed to chasing and dumping on people) is still best both online and offline. A resource that expands on your points about listening and “going naturally” is “How to Sell Network Marketing Without Fear, Anxiety, Or Losing Your Friends!” by Michael Oliver.

  35. I know it is so hard to keep quiet about something you are so passionate about. In the end – you are right – we need to help the customer, not sell them. Thanks Mike!

  36. Hi Glyna,

    I really appreciate your advice and videos – solid advice. I’ve always been a ‘listener’ so it comes more naturally to me to start with asking about someone else and finding out what they’re interested in. However, there have been times when my excitement over a new opportunity was probably ill-timed. It takes more practice for me to promote myself or something I’m interested in, so those times don’t happen often.

    I like your approach in making others feel comfortable and important. Your entire site is like that, actually. I always feel comfortable to explore and learn from you.


  37. Hey Glyna,

    Thanks for stopping by the blog and I really do hope you come back ;p

    Anyway, You threw out some great tips on this one. I especially like the first tip. You’re right, I’ve seen people completely open up when you make the situation about them…Sometimes I think we all need someone there to listen to us, especially in a world that’s so go-go-go all the time.

    If I could I’d like to add one more tip that works for me.

    Spend some pre-call time pumping yourself up. My mantra is “people want to hear what I have to say because my words help.” A little affirmation always helps me perform a little better and it takes the edge off.

    Anyway I’ll be back for sure.

  38. Hi Glyna, You received a lot of comments on this one and I know why. This is the 2nd video I’ve watched of you and I can already tell you have a very unique, warm hearted personality that will definitely take you far. I’m sure you’ve seen a lot of success already. Either way, The Great Man Upstairs has a lot “in store” for you as well. Blessings From My Heart, Curt

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